I’m confident in my sexuality, but my husband’s makes no sense to me

“Sometimes I feel like I’ll never be enough for you,” my husband says, “because I’m just a man.”

“You know I’m happy with monogamy,” I tell him. “You’re enough. You’re the person I chose.”

“But how can I be enough?” We’re spooning under the covers.

“With me, you can’t do…

How I found self love through plastic surgery

I sat inside the Victoria’s Secret dressing room, topless and humiliated. On the other side of my dressing room door, my friends squealed about all the cute, lacy bras they were getting from the Semi-Annual Sale. …

An epic book list to teach empathy, anti-racism, feminism, and diversity

Digital art by Supriya Bhonsle of a dad reading to two young kids, snuggled on a couch with a blanket

Children’s books have the power to change the world.

As a Parent Education college instructor who leads storytimes for babies, toddlers, and preschoolers, I often get asked for children’s book recommendations.

Specifically, parents want book recommendations about kindness, empathy, sharing, and how to talk with young children about hard topics…

They’re seeking connection through domination, at the expense of gender equality.

My husband and I are in bed at the end of what felt like a very long day.

We aim for equality every day: equal time working, equal time parenting. Time together. Time apart.

But today it felt like I was holding the world together by myself.

I’m trying to tell him how hard it was, looking for appreciation, looking for a promise that he’ll help me get…

To my shock, he actually responded

A few years back, I read a children’s book about the moon landing to my then-3-year-old daughter. It’s a great book in so many ways. But one thing stood out to me: Men.

Men, men, men. The word men over and over, in glowing terms, and nowhere a mention of…

You know I’m talking about Shannon Ashley, because she’s inspired you too.

Mixed media art of a person reaching out from under a wave and another hand reaching out to save them

I wanna pop in to urge you to donate to (or share) Shannon Ashley’s GoFundMe, to help her pay for her very-much-needed lipedema surgery. What’s lipedema? Well, if you’re not familiar with it, you might be surprised that an estimated 11% of women have it. …

Yes, you can care about Jews and Palestinians at the same time.

“Path to Peace” wall art painting in English, Arabic, and Hebrew with a dov e— in Netiv HaAsara facing the Gaza border

I’m losing sleep over rockets and airstrikes and war crimes in Israel and Palestine. And also about the widespread mentality that this is a story where one ethnicity is a hero and another is a villain.

Today I breathed a small sigh of relief to see The New York Times’…

“Black is a Rainbow Color” is my favorite this year!

Excited adorable kid, with brown skin and black braids in a striped headband, in a “Future Leader” shirt, on a little bridge

It’s time for Black History Month 2021! Let’s aim to teach and celebrate Black history every month, but February is a great reminder to check in.

I read a lot of children’s picture books, because I’m the mom of a 6-year-old, and because I lead weekly storytimes for kids 0–6…

“You’re the real people,” he said, just before his fans stormed the U.S. Capitol.

A photo of US President Donald Trump looking like it’s in a funhouse mirror

“But just remember this, you’re stronger, you’re smarter. You’ve got more going than anybody and they try and demean everybody having to do with us and you’re the real people. You’re the people that built this nation.”

That’s a snippet from Donald Trump’s Insurrection Day speech that I haven’t seen…

I love you, dear friend, even if there’s a screen between us.

Digital drawing of a smiling person with flowing black hair, a corona of sun behind her head, and a red heart in front of her

Lately, I’m saying, “I love you,” a lot. To my husband, yes, and my daughter of course. But also to friends, including people I’ve never said it to before.

Technically, I’m saying “I love you” to my germ-covered laptop screen, hoping the connection is clear enough for my words to…

Darcy Reeder

Empathy for the win! Published in Gen, Human Parts, Heated, Tenderly —Feminism, Sexuality, Veganism, Anti-Racism, Parenting. She/They darcyreeder.substack.com

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