Our 4yo has always grown up with relationships being about 2 people, gender/sex not factoring in, but this has been a very intentional parenting choice. I’ve taught it through nonchalantly having her toys be in queer relationships and through children’s books that include queer parents. I’ve gone out of my way to try to counter the overwhelming heteronormative narrative, which was actually much easier when she was even younger. We take her to Pride each year, and I think it was when she was 2 at Pride that I felt emotional enough to tell her I’m queer and that I married her Dada but I dated lots of people of different genders before that…. I was a little concerned if she was old enough to feel stable knowing I’d dated other people at all; she was already choosing her toys to indiscriminately marry each other at this point, so she didn’t even read my having dated women as a reveal.
Anyway, following you now! Great writing!