Married Red Pill: The Soulless Subreddit For Men Who Game Their Wives

They’re seeking connection through domination, at the expense of gender equality.

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Fake Smile Photo by Sydney Sims on Unsplash

My husband and I are in bed at the end of what felt like a very long day.

I came across some relationship advice claiming to fix everything.

The only problem was, the advice came at the expense of my status as an equal member of my marriage.

Wait, what’s The Red Pill?

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Red Pill Photo by Anastasia Dulgier on Unsplash

What would a Red Piller have done, in the conversation my husband and I had?

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“She wants the feeling she gets that she’s worth listening to.” Photo by S A R A H ✗ S H A R P on Unsplash

The good advice tucked inside, and what makes Red Pill so dangerous:

Other problematic things in that Reddit post:

Married Red Pill is repackaged relationship advice, without the heart.

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Love Respect Heart Street Art Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash

The Red Pill philosophy of sexual strategy (and especially Married Red Pill)

Hey, we’ve got something tried and true; let’s remove the heart!

TRP is a “philosophy of sexual strategy.”

How do you even know if your husband swallowed the Pill?

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“Alpha” Pills Photo by Elliot L’Angelier on Unsplash
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Glitter Pills Photo by rawpixel on Unsplash

How Men Get Sucked In

Similar to how Eastern religions got repackaged into productivity bestsellers, the timeless virtues of patience and listening are co-opted into strategy to get men laid.

The hierarchy is clear. And of course it is: their whole deal is hierarchy:

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“Men of Quality Respect Women’s Equality” LA Women’s March Photo by Samantha Sophia on Unsplash

In case it’s not clear, Red Pillers despise feminism.

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Photo by GREG KANTRA on Unsplash

Married Red Pillers call themselves “captains” of their marriage, and refer to their wives as “children.”

Their entire philosophy rests on gender inequality. What clearer evidence do we have for the validity of and need for feminism?

It’s terrifying — it’s Handmaidesque — but it’s also kind of sad.

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