Spot on! Cole and Zanab reminded me of my husband and I's very worst moments of communication (we've both done a lot of work to grow, so we rarely relate like that any more). I was shocked to check out the LiB subreddit and see how anti-Zanab most commenters were. I thought what she said at the altar was so brave and empowering to so many of us who have tried to uphold our self-esteem when it's under attack from a partner.