Such a hard decision! Do you think if you do it, you’ll do it soon? I was going crazy about this when my kid was your kid’s age, whether to have a second. My therapist was like, “If you’re going to have a second, are you going to do it right now?” and I was like, “No.” And she was like, “Then you don’t need to worry about it right now, do you?”
She said it in a slower way, haha, that actually worked to calm me. Ultimately, we decided on just one, and I’m happy with our decision. But wow is it tough to make these big decisions.