Thanks for sharing your experience! Yes, to me too, gender expression/style is definitely separate from body parts, so it always confuses me that my husband cares about both. Like, it would make more sense to me if he was into transwomen* too (like, if the attraction was to femme presentation) or if he was into vaginas/clits and the gender expression was less important. But the blanket cis female attraction is harder for me to understand. (Obviously, he’s probably been attracted to plenty of transwomen without realizing it.)

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