Yes yes yes, have all the claps!!
My husband is a way more present father than most, but the invisible labor is killing me. We tried me working full-time and him being a stay-at-home dad, but it wasn’t sustainable, because I still was doing about 50% of the parenting/household stuff. Now he’s working full-time while I work part-time, so things are more equitable, but we’re thinking about switching again (me getting a full-time job and him quitting his job), and I’m wondering how I’ll possibly have time to write, or breathe, or even mother in a way I’m proud of.
Thanks for writing this. Following!